Recognizing Suicide Warning Signs

When someone is thinking about suicide, they often show warning signs. Knowing what to look for—and how to respond—can save a life. If you're worried about someone, trust your instincts. It's better to ask and be wrong than to stay silent.

Warning Signs to Take Seriously

Talking about death or suicide:

• "I wish I wasn't here"
• "Everyone would be better off without me"
• "I can't do this anymore"
• "I just want the pain to stop"
• Joking about suicide or death (especially if out of character)

Behavioral changes:

• Giving away prized possessions
• Saying goodbye to people in unusual or final ways
• Sudden calmness after a period of depression (can indicate a decision has been made)
• Withdrawing from friends, family, and activities
• Increased substance use
• Reckless or self-destructive behavior

Emotional signs:

• Talking about feeling hopeless, trapped, or like a burden
• Extreme mood swings
• Expressing unbearable emotional pain
• Rage, anger, or talk of revenge
• Feeling there's no reason to live

Situational factors:

• Recent major loss (relationship, job, death of loved one)
• Serious illness or chronic pain
• Access to lethal means (firearms, medications)
• Previous suicide attempts
• Family history of suicide

What to Do If You Notice Warning Signs

Ask directly:

• "Are you thinking about suicide?"
• "Are you thinking about hurting yourself?"

Asking does NOT plant the idea. It shows you care and gives them permission to tell the truth.

Listen without judgment:

• Take them seriously, even if you don't fully understand
• Don't minimize: "You have so much to live for" can feel dismissive
• Don't argue or try to talk them out of it
• Just listen and validate: "That sounds incredibly painful. I'm glad you told me."

Don't leave them alone:

• If they're in immediate danger, stay with them
• Remove access to weapons, medications, or other means
• Call 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or 911

Help them connect to support:

• Offer to help them call a crisis line, therapist, or doctor
• Take them to the emergency room if they're in immediate danger
• Follow up consistently—don't assume one conversation fixed it

What Not to Say

Avoid:

• "You're being selfish"
• "Think about how this would affect your family"
• "You have so much to live for"
• "Things aren't that bad"
• "Just pray/think positive"

These statements can increase shame and isolation.

Immediate Resources

If someone is in crisis right now:

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline - Call or text 988 (24/7, free, confidential)
• Crisis Text Line - Text HOME to 741741
• Emergency Services - Call 911 if in immediate danger
• Emergency Room - Go to the nearest hospital

After a Crisis

Suicidal thoughts often come in waves. Just because someone is safe today doesn't mean they're out of danger:

• Help them create a safety plan with a therapist or counselor
• Check in regularly and consistently
• Encourage ongoing professional help
• Reduce access to lethal means
• Connect them with support groups or peer support

Taking Care of Yourself

If you're supporting someone in crisis, it's emotionally exhausting:

• Don't carry this alone—get support for yourself
• Set boundaries around what you can and can't do
• Remember: you can't prevent suicide through willpower alone
• Professional help is essential

You Can Make a Difference

Most people who are suicidal don't want to die—they want the pain to stop. With the right support, many people move through suicidal crises and go on to live meaningful lives.

Your willingness to notice, ask, and stay present can be the lifeline someone needs.

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If you or someone you know is in crisis, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) immediately. This resource is educational and not a substitute for professional crisis intervention.