Elder Support
Staying Connected and Combating Isolation
Combating isolation and staying engaged with community
Isolation can creep in slowly—especially as we age, lose loved ones, or face health challenges that make it harder to get out. But connection is vital for mental and physical health. Here are practical ways to stay engaged, even when it feels difficult.
Why Connection Matters
Loneliness isn't just an emotional issue—it has real health consequences. Studies show that social isolation can:
- Increase risk of depression and anxiety
- Weaken immune function
- Raise blood pressure and heart disease risk
- Accelerate cognitive decline
- Shorten lifespan as much as smoking 15 cigarettes a day
You deserve connection. It's not selfish to seek it out—it's essential.
Small Steps to Stay Connected
You don't need a packed social calendar to combat loneliness. Start small:
Reach out to one person:
- Call or text someone you've been thinking about
- Send a card or letter (many people love receiving mail)
- Reconnect with an old friend, even if it's been years
- Join a phone or video call with family
Get out of the house (even briefly):
- Take a walk in your neighborhood and say hello to neighbors
- Visit a local library, coffee shop, or community center
- Attend a senior center activity or class
- Join a faith community or spiritual gathering
Find your people:
- Look for clubs or groups around your interests (gardening, books, crafts, cards)
- Try volunteer work—helping others combats isolation and gives purpose
- Join exercise classes designed for older adults
- Consider adult education or lifelong learning programs
Overcoming Common Barriers
"I don't want to be a burden"
Reaching out isn't a burden. People generally love to hear from you. And relationships are meant to be reciprocal—let people show up for you.
"I have mobility or health issues"
Many programs offer transportation services, virtual options, or home visits. Ask your doctor, local Area Agency on Aging, or senior services about resources.
"I've lost so many people"
Grief can make connection feel impossible. But new relationships don't replace the ones you've lost—they honor them by helping you keep living fully.
"I don't know how to use technology"
Many libraries and senior centers offer free technology classes. Video calls can be a game-changer for staying in touch with distant family.
When to Reach Out for Help
If you're feeling persistently lonely, depressed, or withdrawn, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional. Isolation can be both a symptom and a cause of depression—and it's treatable.
You can also contact:
- Your local Area Agency on Aging (call 1-800-677-1116 to find yours)
- Senior centers or community programs
- Faith communities or spiritual leaders
- The Friendship Line (1-888-670-1360), a crisis line specifically for older adults
Connection Is a Practice
Building and maintaining relationships takes effort, especially when you're tired or grieving. But small, consistent actions add up. Even one meaningful connection can make a profound difference in how you feel.
You're not too old for new friendships. You're not too much. You matter, and your presence matters to others.
This resource is educational and not a substitute for professional medical advice. If you're experiencing depression or thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a healthcare provider or call 988.
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